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Spitefulness: Personality Trait, Threat Response, or Social Strategy?
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Spitefulness: Personality Trait, Threat Response, or Social Strategy?

Amanda LaMela: Spite runs on peculiar logic: I will accept a loss if yours is bigger. Maybe you keep arguing long after you are exhausted because ending the conversation would feel like letting the other person win. Perhaps you sacrifice your own convenience to make someone who hurt you feel uncomfortable. The cost may be time, money, reputation, closeness, or peace of mind. The desired payoff is that the other person pays too. This post explores the social conditions that embolden spiteful patterns.

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Different Soil: What Happens When Your Conditions Meet Someone Else's
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Different Soil: What Happens When Your Conditions Meet Someone Else's

Brooke Levy: Part 3 of this series. Maybe you've started noticing your patterns, your nervous system's defaults, the shape you take when things get close. But then you start dating someone, or you're already in a relationship, and suddenly everything you thought you'd sorted out is up in the air again. You're reactive in ways you didn't expect. You're not sure if what you're feeling is about them or about you.

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Professional Panic: The Existential Side of Career Transitions
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Professional Panic: The Existential Side of Career Transitions

Amanda LaMela: Popular career advice often fails a particular kind of high-achieving, ambitious individual. These high-functioning people are psychologically literate, engage in cognitive reframing, and can recite growth-mindset language fluently. And yet, these strengths and efforts seem to provide inadequate protection from a career-induced existential crisis.

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The Hero’s Journey Isn’t About Slaying Dragons – It’s About Becoming Yourself
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The Hero’s Journey Isn’t About Slaying Dragons – It’s About Becoming Yourself

Sydney Kowalski: From Star Wars to Harry Potter, the stories that captivate us often reflect something deeply human: the process of growth and transformation. This post explores Joseph Campbell’s concept of the Hero’s Journey and how its themes of uncertainty, challenge, and self-discovery can mirror our own experiences with life transitions and therapy. Just like the heroes in our favorite stories, we may not always know where our journey will lead, but we don't have to navigate it alone.

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Unlabeled Containers: What's Under the Lid?
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Unlabeled Containers: What's Under the Lid?

Adham Moustafa: Emotions are messages from our bodies, and taking time to feel them can seem dangerous. How do you know when have you actually felt something, and when have you just sealed the lid on it? A container that isn't labeled is hard to identify later. The feeling gets stored anyway, but without a label, you don't know what you're holding when it resurfaces.

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Rebuilding Self-Trust After Betrayal
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Rebuilding Self-Trust After Betrayal

Amanda LaMela: Betrayal can take on many forms. Maybe you’ve discovered an affair, a hidden life, or a secret account. This discovery provokes complex and often contradictory emotions, as disoriented confusion meets the gut-punch of certainty. The pain of what your partner did is overwhelming on its own. But often the deep, persisting injury is the loss of trust in yourself. This article is for anyone navigating the aftermath of betrayal.

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College and Mental Well-Being: A Student's Guide to Finding Balance
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College and Mental Well-Being: A Student's Guide to Finding Balance

Dina Borisova: Struggling with mental health in one’s college years is widely recognized as an understandable aspect of college life, often viewed as a normative experience rather than an exception. Despite its normalization, many students experience difficulties at levels that are clinically concerning. This post explores healthy coping strategies to effectively manage stress, maintain balance, and support academic success.

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Clear Eyes, Full Hearts, Can't Lose: A Therapist's Take on the Friday Night Lights Mantra
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Clear Eyes, Full Hearts, Can't Lose: A Therapist's Take on the Friday Night Lights Mantra

Lily Dean: If you watched television in the mid-2000s, you probably remember the mantra. Before every game, Coach Eric Taylor would look at his high school football team and deliver six words that became a cultural touchstone: "Clear eyes, full hearts, can't lose." We tend to think of winning and losing in very rigid terms. But Coach Taylor's philosophy points to something different…

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Working Through Transplant Shock: How We Learn to Grow in New Conditions
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Working Through Transplant Shock: How We Learn to Grow in New Conditions

Brooke Levy: Things can look worse before they look better. The uncomfortable part isn’t a sign it’s failing. It’s just what adjusting looks like. Most of us assume we’d recognize a healthy environment if we were in one. That ease would feel like ease. That safety would feel like safety. That our bodies would send some kind of clear signal when something was right. But the nervous system doesn’t work that way.

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The Economics of Connection and the Emotional Recession
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The Economics of Connection and the Emotional Recession

Amanda LaMela: Maybe you’ve noticed a shift during your Monday team meeting or at the coffee shop at 8:49 a.m. The faces are a little blanker than they used to be. Lighthearted small talk has been replaced by doomscrolling and distracted stares. You might find yourself asking, “Why does the work feel heavier even though my job title is technically the same?” This post explores what researchers are calling an “emotional recession” and why human connection matters now more than ever.

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The Importance of Play in Adulthood: How Play Helps Us Develop, Cope, and Connect
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The Importance of Play in Adulthood: How Play Helps Us Develop, Cope, and Connect

Sydney Kowalski: As adults, much of our lives becomes centered on what needs to get done. We spend so much time thinking about work, productivity, and what comes next, and so little time doing things that bring us enjoyment. Not to say adults never have fun anymore, but many of us become so focused on obligations that we slowly drift away from hobbies and activities we once loved. Play can help adults cope with stress, reconnect with themselves, foster creativity, and build meaningful connections with others. 

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Beauty and the Pedestal: Perfectionism and the People We Love 
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Beauty and the Pedestal: Perfectionism and the People We Love 

Adham Moustafa: A friend asks you about the outfit they're wearing. It looks good and everyone already confirmed it. Yet your friend hesitates on their choice, and you recognize the discomfort the outfit may cause them throughout the day. What happens when someone is brave enough to name that discomfort? 

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Understanding the Role of Avoidance in Trauma Coping
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Understanding the Role of Avoidance in Trauma Coping

Dina Borisova: Trauma coping often includes avoidance patterns that initially help people function, stay productive, or distance themselves from overwhelming emotions. While these strategies can feel adaptive in the short term, they may also keep trauma responses active by preventing deeper processing and integration over time. This post explores the research behind this and how healing can begin.

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How Boundary Setting is Key for ADHD and Close Relationships 
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How Boundary Setting is Key for ADHD and Close Relationships 

Wes Higgins: People with ADHD can struggle with close relationships because closeness without structure can turn messy fast. What keeps a relationship steady is not just how open you are. It’s also how well you manage limits. Without boundaries, intensity can run the show. This post explores the importance of boundaries, why they feel difficult to hold, and how therapy can help.

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Lessons From Sport: The Case for Mental Flexibility Over Mental Toughness
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Lessons From Sport: The Case for Mental Flexibility Over Mental Toughness

Lily Dean: If you have ever played a sport, watched a sport, or even just seen a Gatorade commercial, you know the script. The ultimate athletic virtue has been mental toughness for years and years. The harder you push, the more success you will find, or at least that is what the culture has told us. Most of us have internalized that message far beyond the field or the court. This post explores the healthier alternative that sustains people longer both in sport and in life.

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